What To Look For In a Guy: The Right Man You Should Date or Marry

thelovewhisperer:

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1. Date a boy who makes you happy, but marry him only if he makes you laugh deep-belly rumbles that hurt your ribs as they expand outwards. Date him when he sees that you’re hurting and he gives you a moment to feel that pain like a handprint spreading across your consciousness, marry him only if he can make you smile even while you’re gross sobbing. The world is not a kind place. You will feel a lot of pain. Make sure you are with someone who makes it all bearable. Humor is an excellent gauge of intelligence. Life gets boring. Find someone who makes the banal interesting.

2. Make sure he has scars on the back of his hands, it’s a good sign he has experience either fighting or making things - creation is an act of selflessness and bruised knuckles are a good sign he knows how to defend himself. You’ve got too much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. If he’s never thrown a punch, let him at least have tasted the insanity of bringing an idea into existence. Rough palms are better than soft ones, they have been salted by this earth and made into leather. Callouses are evidence he has lived, that he has broken skin and been in pain over and over and over again and still came back to the source of it. People rub against each other. Don’t marry him if he can’t handle even a little blister.

3. Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.

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bujnik:

Oh man.
This just gave me intense swimming urges.

bujnik:

Oh man.

This just gave me intense swimming urges.

"What we find in a soulmate is not something wild to tame but something wild to run with"
— Robert Brault (via howlingfury)
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"I am tired of trying to hold things together that cannot be held. Trying to control what cannot be controlled. I am tired of denying myself what I want for fear of breaking things I cannot fix. They will break no matter what we do."
Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus   (via seabois)
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marian16rox:

Paper lanterns at sea…

marian16rox:

Paper lanterns at sea…

"The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be his or herself, without the threat of you leaving."
— (via ladycunt)

Venus in Gemini in love.

Venus in Gemini in love.

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harperperennial:

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harperperennial:

My go-to for party planning. Our conference room gatherings have become absolutely next level.

tirairgid:

 - The 32 counties of Ireland

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❝As I’m maturing, I’m going to do different things and take on new parts. I hope people come along with me on the journey.” — Emma Watson

As I’m maturing, I’m going to do different things and take on new parts. I hope people come along with me on the journey.” — Emma Watson

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"The best feeling in the world is being loved back by the person you love."
— (via psych-facts)
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